Wednesday, September 28, 2011

FINALLY

My Dad taught me that if I wanted something in life, I had to speak up or figure out a way to make it happen. No one was going to do it for me. It was up to me to control my destiny.

 I heard people saying that growth never take place in absence of tears and sweat. It stroke me that everything came so strong and hard that all of a sudden here the fate fell.

There is and will never ever be someone who would come up telling you why and how life will offer you new opportunities and chances. Only you could convince yourself by believing that  hope is everywhere.

Not everyone is going to approve of the decision you make. Catch the star that holds your destiny and that will take you eventually to your dream. Oftentimes the world around you may be filled up with suspects on how well you do and how well you are going to do. You are the only one that is able to choose to believe and trust yourself that you are going to make it. Even is the whole world is going to desert you, you can never let you desert yourself for you are the only one who can do something for a change.

As a matter of fact, everything is quite simple, Not everything would work in the way that you want.
Not every effort pays you  back.However, if you give up going forward and working hard, everything will not work in the way you like.So just work hard. Diligence is something that everyone is able to own.It is alse something most people cannot own.It’s up to whether you are a successful one.

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Understanding Life



If there is one truth about life, it is its unhindered and continuous change, for as long as the life remains.There have been a number of philosophers who've tried to describe life but no one's ever reached a consensus about it. According to some, life is the name of continuous happening, continuous involvement, continuous evolution... and all these phenomenon lead to one word, change.


I recently saw this movie called 'The Tree of Life' which also tried to describe the truth of life and I'll have to say the way the movie presented its concept was quite convincing. The movie gets you stunned by its visuals which were extraordinarily captured from all the ordinary things. And surprisingly, these are the ordinary things that confine the truth of life within them, ready to be explored, ready to be unearthed.

The movie covers a part of the life-span of a boy and depicts different phases of his life. How his parents are fascinated by his existence when he's born. How he grows up and takes his very first step. How he speaks his very first word. How he looks upto his parents in difficult scenarios which he does not understand. And ultimately, how he starts to understand things and starts detaching from his past, his parents.

There are so many things which I didn't understand at all but now things have started to fall in place. The reason behind this is nothing but the change and development brought by life.

Few years back a teacher, while making us read a sophisticated book, said, "These words are gonna remain the same, but they would mean different to you when you read them again in a few years". At that time, all I did as a response was make jest out of it but it was now that I realized that he was right.


Well, the movie just triggered a thought in my mind and I couldn't help writing it down. There's nothing I understand about life yet but I'm certain the change would continue... until the end.

Sunday, September 18, 2011

Expectations


You often expect a lot from others when you stand on their expectations. They are close, close to what you never expect or you ever expected.


Expectations, that's what life is about.

  • A mother's from her very own creator.
  • A father's from his very own beginner.
  • A teacher's from it's very own learner.
  • A be-beloved's from it's very own lover.
  • A toddler's from it's very own leader.
  • A friend's from it's very own mirror.
From A-Z of our very own life, we consistently try, try to stand on what others expect from Us. And similarly expect from them too. Often what we end up with are bunch of expectations either not fulfilled by Us or by them.Life become darker and more darker. Some get over it and let it go  while others keep them deep inside and let it grow. Difference that counts is how it matter to them. What was the reason they never stood or weren't able to stood?
  • Was that the most beautiful creation?
  • Was that my fruit's fulfillment?
  • Was that our love's wish?
  • Was that my learner's talent?
  • Was that my best-est reflection?

With the fight of not expecting and expecting, we unintentionally neglect to their wishes and wants. May be it wouldn't be that darker if we had seen through their sight. May be we would have made it a better place.

A place where one understands other, where expectations are delayed or rephrased but never fall. Expect as much as you wish to but within the walls of not only you of the people you expect from. Do think but not your way, keep it aside and fit into their shoe and explore them. Life will be beautiful and more beautiful.

Nevertheless, it is they who make your life not only you. They are your life not you! : )

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Why? and I do repeat it again why?


It is always a wo-man to be questioned and accused for her doings, good or bad by the society but not a Man.

I see Father killing his daughter in the name of Honor killing, a husband abusing for giving birth to a daughter, disgraced if she can't give you a child, murdered if caught in a love endorsed relationship, tortured if claims for her rights, sexually beleaguered more of it is the most bitter part they too are sold for a lump sum count in one’s wealth to the man-eater world.


Why women just limited to the pride of his father, husband or family not because how nicely they did her education or how successful they are in life? But yes they will more proud when a society claims them moralistic and “pardaydar”.

An overview to what i mentioned above from the eye of our social happenings:
  • In a country that forbids women to display their hair or bodies, Iranian models  adapt glamorous profession modeling according to Islamic rules. However, despite the strict dress code and lower rates of pay as compared to their counterparts elsewhere, it is still a sought-after profession for Iranian girls. A lesson for Pakistani models. Are man permitted to display their body parts?
  • Pakistani actress Veena Malik and Model Hrishant Goswami were caught in action while getting cozy with each other where I notice many articles regarding Our male singers or artist on an international programs being kissed and hugged by every other fan coming to them.
  • A 17-year-old girl was abducted, raped and paraded naked around the streets of her village for refusing the advances of a local landlord.
  • Several clerics have issued fatwas against former Pakistani minister Sherry Rehman and declared her an infidel for calling for changes in the blasphemy law, prompting civil society activists to register a complaint with police in the port city of Karachi today.
  • The former husband of a 45-year-old woman tortured her and shaved her head and eyebrows at gunpoint, two years after their divorce in Larkana.
  • Two pregna­nt women were killed in Khanew­al and Vehari allege­dly by their husban­ds abette­d by their families.
  • No dowry, no bride, no wedding. New brides are expected to bring wealth into their in-laws' homes - a shocking and disgusting ritual.
  • Mother of two enrolls in class one. 25-year-old Asma says she always wanted to attend school but her parents had forbid­den it.
  • Not brought up strongly and ethically, mother's fault as the father was busy making money.
  • The group of armed men stormed into the house of MS, a peasant who works for landlord Manzar Ali Jatoi.
  • Dozens of police officials have been booked on charges of rape and other human rights violations of a serious nature during the last three years as the country is confronting unabated deterioration in the law and order situation.

There is a big clutter of such stories in our daily newspaper and TV headlines but yet they are actively increasing day to day. Why? Do you have a clue to it? Why is our nation getting desperate to such doings? Dark ages but what is so indifferent, Today. I see nothing is.

It isn't that our mothers aren't a woman by gender, or our sisters can be a victim too. If we are responsible for their security why aren't we for every other woman around Us.

Why do we harass or misuse their presence?


Love And Cooking

Other men live to eat, while I eat to live, said Socrates the sage. This utterance may have offended many people as he pointed out part of the truth of their life. Nevertheless, nobody will deny the importance of eating, for the sake of “living” at least. Hence, cooking becomes an essential part of life.LOVE Cooking involves a series of complicated procedures, challenging both hand and head. I don’t see cooking as a bad job. Cooking, for the preliminary purpose, is to feed empty stomach's, and for a higher grade, enjoyment.


Cooking itself is enjoyment too. Take me for example. I find a lot of pleasure in the preparatory process of cooking. Slice a potato, knife up and down quickly, producing a rhythmic piece of music, if not melodious. This done, I would jokingly apologize to my sister, “sorry honey. I sliced them too thin again.” And then, we’ll laugh heartedly.

Some people believe that cooking, traditionally taken by women, is nowadays undertaken by men. That’s true. In many families, it is the husband that cooks, and he does wonderful cooking too. Some women, a lot actually, pampered from childhood, know little about housework, never touch cooking, or step into the kitchen.  


Cooking, same with other human activities, can be interesting at the first try, but boring repeated day in and day out. It would be ideal when a couple cook together. When  they are at home,  they would cook together. Usually, wife prepare for cooking, cutting, skinning, slicing, etc, which he is not good at. And then, he takes real cooking, fume and strong smell of which she dislike. Afterwards, she wash dishes, and he, waiting till I have wiped all clean and dry, puts them one by one back into the cupboard. Work seems boring but connecting, the joy of which only those involved in know.


“Love is unconditional and unselfish”. If you do love a girl you’ll not hesitate to cook for her. You’ll be willing to do something even boring like cooking for your beloved.

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Live to work or work to live?





Who can tell me what’s the meaning of live? I am a little confused by my thoughts. I though for a while lonely. By the end I summary my own answer that is I work to afford my life and work will become my life.


I define my life is live to work before 35 years old. I am willing to devote all my time and efforts to work. In other words, I am working very hard for a visible promotion and long term professional career. I would like to earn more and more money in order to  afford my life and my family. Through hardworking, I’m able to meet my dream of material life, such as house, car, beautiful things and so on. The all what I’ve mentioned are a preparation for my future life. I believe the high quality life won’t be far under the firm financial support. As a member of young generation, I have no reason to stop fighting  for a better life. There is no doubt that hardworking is the most practical way to realize my dream. So I want to say that I will choose live to work as I’m young. 


On the contrary, I choose work to live without hesitation after 35 years old. At that time, I will pay main attention to my family and life. It’s time to spend a lot of time and energy to my kid and family. I will enjoy life, and spend more money for travel, party, sports, charity and something else. It’s time to enjoy to do what I want to do without financial pressure. During the period, work just occupies  a  small part in my life. I earn money by work and have fun form work. I enjoy work but not only rely on it for fun.  

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Happy Birthday To Me..:)


The birthday calculator can tell you fun things about you and the day you were born. It can tell you all sorts of things from the phase of the moon when you were born, your birth stone and lots of numerological and astrological facts.

Here are some facts about my Birthday…

Birthday Facts:
  • You were born on a Monday.
  • Your star sign is Virgo.
  • Your birthstone is Sapphire.
  • The season was Autumn.
  • Astrology Signs for September


About Virgo:

The sign of the virgin. Typical virgos are supposed to be pure wholesome and good, but this is not always the case. Be sure for every 1 true virgo, there are 3 who should have been a leo. A place for everything and everything in its place, that is the organised life of the virgo in a nut shell. Virgo are very industrious and enjoy dissecting large quantities of information and analysing it.

Quality: Negative
Ruler: Mercury
Triplicity: Mutable
Quadruplicity: Earth

Traditional Virgo                       Traits  On the dark side....
Modest and shy                                Fussy and a worrier
Meticulous and reliable                     Overcritical and harsh
        Practical and diligent                         Perfectionist and conservative 
                                Intelligent and analytical


Life Path Compatibility:

You are most compatible with those with the Life Path numbers 1, 5 & 7.
You should get along well with those with the Life Path numbers 3 & 9.
You may or may not get along well with those with the Life Path number 8.
You are least compatible with those with the Life Path numbers 2, 4, 6, 11 & 22.



Positives:

Virgo men are dedicated and devoted. They will do whatever they can to protect their family and loved ones no matter whatever challenge they may face. Married with this devotion is an intellectual and an attention to detail which Virgo men can succeed both at work and home.
Virgo men have an analytical and measured approach which makes them excellent problem solvers and shrewd in difficult situations. These characteristics mean some are fantastic lawyers.

Negatives:

They can sometimes be too devoted and over proud of those around them. This means Virgo men will often gloat about their life causing those around them to resent them. The devotion can also make them over-protective and likely to take retribution, ranging from murder to petty and pedantic remarks.

Overall, Virgo men love and are devoted. It is important to have your own space and not to allow jealousy to develop. Moreover, they are proud men so they want to be in a relationship with a woman who makes them proud.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Reflection or Obstruction?

Does it reflects those dark ages of Arab before Prophet hood and Islam or is it an obstruction to our belief and preaching due to mental sickness in Human Being? All I see are the very similar social and moral issues to those times are now around me from these Human looking animals of today’s so-called civilized world!
To clarify it is not only Pakistan or Asia specifically, the darkness is spread over the entire world let it call the natural disastrous destruction, violation of human rights, imbalanced state of law and order or self-discrimination.Recall those highlighted stories of the dark ages of Arab don’t they contrast today’s scenario of our society.


What is our social Life?

Social life presents no better picture today for me. It is very ignorant and the very bare bones of crucial social intrinsic are no worth anymore. I notice caste and creed discrimination, class and standardization, race of hunger, inhumane extremism, and terror of beliefs in short indispensable to the cultivation of social qualities. We are surviving a nomadic life that teaches us to treat our weak fellow as malicious cattle that can be used and thrown away very next moment.


Where is the judiciary?

I see no government enforcement in our law and order in the country, what I notice is innumerable petty states that divide people into race and color based independent political unit. Too weak to keep their followers secured but clouded enough to patrol so-called “Leaders” of the followers who just wrench to win one's rights from another.Whereas in Qur'an it is stated in a few beautiful words that utter this weakening:

"You were on the brink of a pit of fire…" [The Qur'an, 3:103.]

A modern writer writes it as Ins and Outs of Mesopotamia: "A more disunited people it would be hard to find, till, suddenly, the miracle took place. A man arose who, by his personality and by his claims to direct divine guidance, actually brought about the impossible, namely the union of all these warring factions."


Why a gender superior on another?

I mean what the hell? A 3 yr old little baby girl being raped and killed, a woman shoot down for getting married to one she ever wanted to get married in her life or a mother of 12 children being head and brow shaved by his husband. Why don’t you go through the Holy Book left back for the guidance and read to the Quranic injunctions,

"Women shall have the same rights over men as men have over them," [The Qur'an, 2:228.]

Why can’t you obey to what Our Holy Prophet (May Peace Be Upon Him) said:

"The best of you is he who treats his wife best."

What would you ever get through such cold-blooded brutalities can’t you memorize that in the dark ages of Arab same was demised, at a single stroke, by the Quranic words:

"And when the one buried alive is asked for what sin she was killed …" [The Qur'an, 81: 8 and 9.]

I am afraid to see that Jahalat in the Ummah of Holy Prophet (S.A.W) more to say and ask for.

Monday, September 5, 2011

HOPE



What  love is? I wondered.Love is a forever theme in literary world.It seemed that their love stories were  heartrending but beautiful.Can that be true in real life? But I heard so many men betrayed their families.So did my friends.In my opinion,man is a symbol of uncertainty and isn’t worth being trust.I don’t believe in love,even though I haven’t experienced it yet.Who can tell me what love is?Can love be eternal?
   
If you are in bad mood,and have the grey feelings,what will you do?how can you get rid of it? today,one of my best friends sent a message to me ,said: hei,i am sad now.i asked,why?what happened? she could not tell anything at first and then told me about her BF.and unfortunately,i was unhappy either at that time,I did not know what should i do,but i had to comfort her.. 

Sometimes,it is very hard to make a decision,but we have to be up against it ,for me,It is not worthy to be upset for the one who is not worth for my love yes hope is everywhere. If you just lost it, find it somewhere else. There will be a day in the future that you find yourself reaching the line as well as others.It doesn't have to be based on how well your previous job is done but just a belief, a firm belief that you will make it.Even thought it’s a belief, it works out well.

I trusted myself and every trouble disappeared. So everyone, trust yourself.Tell yourelf that Everything is going to be fine I am here once again, leaving this note to everyone, only to tell people including me that try to image hope as a star. When you someday can’t see it up in the sky at night, try another night.There will always be one time when you find it and get it.


Saturday, September 3, 2011

From Heart

Life is short, and we all need to step back and realize how great it really can be
Be optimistic. Think of life in the best way possible, bright side and find the better side of every situation. You would be amazed at how much more there is to life than the negative.


Live every moment to the fullest. Don’t waste a single second being sad, bored, or lonely. Get out there and dance, and sing as if no one was around. You never know how much longer you have to do so.  
 Laugh often. This is possibly the most important point in this how-to guide. Laughter is the number one most important thing in life. Laugh much, and smile often.  
 Live in the present. Forget about the past, as there is nothing you can do about it. Don’t worry about the future, as what is to come is to come, and if you forget to live in the moment, you would be surprised at how quickly time can slip.  
Be kind to everyone. Kindness is the key to unlocking your own happiness and joy. If others notice your kindness, they will gratefully return it. Make as many close friends as you can, and help them when they are down, as you never know when you will need them to catch you.  

Find a Partner. Find someone to love can be very hard however just be patient and maybe that special person will come along.

Sadness


 Sometimes the toughest thing about feelings is sharing them with others. Sharing your feelings helps you when your feelings are good and when they aren’t so good. Sharing also helps you to get closer to people you care about and who care about you. When people talk about feelings, they sometimes use the word "emotions."  
 The way a person feels inside is important. It can be really hard not to tell anyone that you’re feeling sad, worried, or upset. Then, it’s just you and these bad feelings. If you keep feelings locked inside, it can even make you feel sick! 
Feeling down? Got the blues? You’re not alone. Everyone gets sad. Yes, everyone you’ve ever met. 
When you’re in a sad mood, it may feel like it will last forever, but usually feelings of sadness don’t last very long — a few hours or maybe a day or two. A deeper, more intense kind of sadness that lasts a lot longer is called depression  Sadness is a feeling — it’s one of the many normal human emotions, or moods, we all have. Sadness is the emotion people feel when they’ve lost something important, or when they have been disappointed about something, or when something sad has happened to them or to someone else. When they’re lonely, people often feel sad.

When you’re sad, the world may seem dark and unfriendly. You might feel like you have nothing to look forward to. The hurt deep inside may crush your usually good mood.  
Most of the time, sadness is because of a loss or separation, a difficult change or disappointment about something, or relationship problems.  
Try to open your heart to the person who you trust,  There is always somebody to talk to when you are sad or if you are depressed — somebody who can help.